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Happily Never After

Why aren't movie characters real?

Okay, so I accept and acknowledge that Jack Dawson, Noah Calhoun, Alex Stewart and any character that Channing Tatum has played do not exist and are only fictional, but why? It's characters like Superman, Harry Potter and The Doctor that cannot ever be possible, but why is being a genuine, lovely, caring person who loves every bone of someone's being, and just wants to love them and wants them to be happy, so impossible to find or be? Surely these characters were based on real people, and if that's what girls and guys wanted then, why don't people want that now?

The culture that we live in now makes these characters impossible to even imagine. This culture only praises the 'LADS' who sleep with and fuck over girls by the dozen, with their idols being Gaz and Scotty T, which in return is making girls idolise the Geordie Shore girls and other similar types of people, i.e. unhealthily skinny, fake, slutty idiots.

Why do people not want the movie-style, fairytale relationship? Because they don't exist, right? Well yes, but only because these type of people do not exist anymore. Call me old fashioned, but what is so terrifying about only talking to one girl/guy at a time and actually committing to them? What is the point of 'seeing each other'? You're either together, or you're not. I mean, there's playing hard to get, there's the chase that initially makes getting to know each other fun, but then that guy gradually becomes 'busy' and that means too busy to talk to you, even though you know he's speaking to other girls.

When Taylor said all this, I wanted to teleport all of my exes to London to listen to her.

I'm not saying girls are perfect either, I'm sure plenty of guys have been messed about by girls just like the guys mess around the girls, and obviously there are the few anomalies who are actually lovely guys and girls, but they've already been nabbed because someone has seen the good in them, and I am horrendously jealous of those people, but I can only speak from personal experience. And I'm not going to lie, I do speak to guys, I get with people when I'm out, I'm not a prude, but it's really just because I have no other option. Maybe I've just had a bunch of tossers in my time, but frankly, I'm yet to see any other type. There was one guy who was so close to it, to sound cliché, I actually thought he was different and something good was happening, but that quickly came crashing down after the 'one month free trial', that I apparently have written on my head, was over.

It may be sad and pathetic, and show that there's obviously something wrong with me, that I haven't had a proper boyfriend for 4 years, and those 4 years have been where people have told me to just 'have fun', but speaking to multiple guys just to be fucked over after a couple of weeks for a skinnier, prettier, funnier girl every single time, is not what I class as 'fun'. I would much rather be with one person for months where we actually like each other for who we are and want to make each other happy, that's what I would call 'fun'. And anyway, these people that tell me to just 'have fun' forget that as a girl, if I was to sleep with a number of guys, I would then be a slag/slut/whore, and that is not fun either.

Can I marry the guy who wrote this?

Why does nobody want happily ever after anymore?!

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